I read an inspiring article today. It was a short, simple article in the free magazine that I get from the grocery store called, “The Mosaic, mind.body.spirit.health.wisdom.” I’ve always been drawn to this magazine. There is something about it that feels right with it. Anyway the article was called, “Sadhguru’s Tips On Good Parenting”, by Isha Sadhguru. I love the tips! I love how he starts off by basically saying that all kids are unique, therefore they need different levels of attention, expressions of love and toughness. So true! I totally remembered back to when I was working and I would have parents with a “troubled” child and they would say something like, “we did all the exact same things with Johnny and he’s doing just fine!” I’d always say, well so and so isn’t Johnny. They are different people with unique needs and desires!! What one child responds to may very well not work at all with a sibling. My 6 year old is going through a stage (I hope – lol) where he thinks he’s right, period. There is no changing his stubborn little mind! Our younger daughter would have listened and said, ” Okay. Thanks Mommy.” No five minute or longer, in depth discussions where I must logically explain why something is the way it is. And, five minutes doesn’t always do it…Anyway, moving right along. There were 10 tips and I love them all!! So here’s a mini version for you!! 

1. A Child is a Privilege. (Pretty self explanatory)
2. Let Them Be.  (Let them become whatever they have to become…)
3. True Love. (Basically described as not overindulging, just what is needed. “When you truly love someone, you are willing to be unpopular and still do what is best for them.”)
4. There’s No Hurry to Grow Up.  (Basically meaning that a child needs to remain a child.)
5. It Is Time To Learn Not Teach. (I love this one! “If your child knows more joy than you, who is better qualified to be a consultant about life? When a child arrives it is time to learn, not teach.”)
6. Children are naturally spiritual. (Generally something or someone, like parents, teachers, society, television meddles with them too much. “The child will become naturally spiritual without even knowing the word spirituality, as it is natural for human intelligence to seek; the important thing to do is not provide standard answers.”)
7. Provide A Supportive And Loving Atmosphere. (Pretty self explanatory)
8. Maintain A Friendly Relationship. (“Create a strong friendship, rather than being the boss.” Don’t sit on a pedestal, both literally and figuratively. “Place yourself below the child, so that it is easy for the child to talk to you.”
9. Avoid Seeking Respect.  (“Love is what you seek with your children, isn’t it? Yes, you came a few years earlier, are bigger in body and you know a few survival tricks, but in what way are you a better life than your child?”)
10. Make Yourself Truly Attractive. (“A child is influenced by so many things – television, neighbors, teachers, school and a million other things. He/she will go the way of whatever he/she finds most attractive…If you are a joyous, intelligent and wonderful person…For anything, he/she will come and ask you.”)

He finishes off by saying, “If you are genuinely interested in giving your children a good upbringing, you should first transform yourself into a peaceful, loving and blissfull human being.” 

I like his end comment about transforming yourself first! I’m not calling myself the best parent in the world. I believe we all make mistakes, parents and children. However, my hubby and I have jokingly said, on more than one occasion, that we think that there should be a mandatory parenting test or class/workshop or something to help people be more prepared and to help with, like he just said above, transforming yourself! I have no problem apologizing to my kids if I overreact or whatever. I know I’m not perfect, my kids know I’m not perfect, but I try my best to be a good mom. It’s such an important job, raising children. Also, it is a blessing. I may have regrets in life, but my children will never be one of them!!

Hope you enjoyed this one. I loved writing it!! Night all💤💤

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