My hubby’s in Yellowknife again and I hate it. It’s just weird without him here. I don’t like it. Routines are funny things. You don’t even realize how you’re relying on the calm and comfort that day to day routines give us. The whole thing gets shaken-up when someone’s removed from the equation. Suddenly everything seems off kilter. Some things aren’t getting done at all, while others are somehow different. It’s like family systems theory (please don’t quote me on this, it’s been a very long time since I learned and used my brain on people or work or, well, anything really!!); if one thing shifts in the family unit, it effects and shifts the entire family. In each of our families we define ourselves and our roles, sometimes overtly like, wife, mother, oldest child, etc, and sometimes more covertly, like, the pleaser, the independent child, the provider, the caregiver, etc. I’m not sure why I went off on this tangent or why I’m rambling on about it, but I’m just going to roll with it. I’ve witnessed, as the majority of people likely have, when people go through a divorce. (I’m in no way judging. I believe there are many very valid reasons for a couple to split up!!) What I was trying to say is that when people separate the “regular” family system is completely thrown apart. This can create many repercussions to the family, kids argue more or cry more or they may try to act “normal”, or they may shut down and not let anyone in, etc etc, a parent may now have to work out of the home, maybe they have to move, etc…Basically what I’m saying is that almost everything will change, some subtle and other changes will likely be obvious!! However, this can happen on a much smaller scale, such as, one person in the family decides to eat healthier and go for regular walks. It sends a ripple through the rest of the family and small changes or shifts may occur. The spouse of the person changing their habits, may have to watch the kids more often or drive the kids to their extracurricular activities, or, perhaps they feel resentment and decide to sabotage their spouse’s new lifestyle (consciously or unconsciously). And, then the ripple from that runs through the children, etc etc.  And, this strange post is due to my current ripples, with my hubby working out of town…

And, I don’t enjoy the ripple caused by my hubby having to travel more for work! It’s poopy!!!

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Hopefully one day I’ll get it right, or at least have fun, while about it I write!!